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Answers for Birth-mothers from Birth-Mothers

I have reached out to some of my previous birth-mothers. I want them to help me empower any expectant mother who comes across our web or Facebook page that is considering adoption for their baby. It doesn’t get more real than asking another birth mother who has been through the adoption process.
Here are some of the top questions we asked our former birth mothers along with their replies.

Why did you choose adoption for your baby?
I knew for a fact I could not go through with an abortion. I also knew that I could not care for an infant or raise a baby at that point in my life. People think you choose adoption because you don’t want your baby, but for me it is that I wanted her so much, I wanted to give her life. A good life. – Britany

The truth is, financially there was no way I could give my child the things he needed or deserves. I was and still am a single mother trying to do my best with two other children. I wanted to give him two parents that could care for him and give him the things I could not. I chose a couple for my baby that had been struggling with infertility for years. I felt and still feel good about my decision to place my baby with them. We have a wonderful open adoption. I communicate with them often and get plenty of pictures and updates. – Jennifer

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Why do women choose adoption?

The reasons why a woman chooses adoption varies. You may not be able to financially support your baby or you may feel that you cannot emotionally take care of a baby currently. Some women also realize their situations are unfavorable or unsafe or a child to be raised in. Any reason you have for considering adoption is valid. We know this is a difficult and courageous choice, and you are doing what you believe is best for you and your baby.

 

Can I choose the family for my baby?

Absolutely.  You may choose the family you want to adopt your baby.

We have many profiles on hand of families from all ethnic and racial backgrounds. We also have same sex couples as well as single parents who are interested in adopting. All families have been screened and have approved home studies.

How are adoptive families screened?

All adoptive families must complete a home study by a licensed clinical social worker or agency. This means they must go through a rigorous background check, which includes criminal and child abuse background investigations as well as financial, medical and emotional stability evaluations.

Will I be able to see my baby in the hospital?

Yes. We will work with you to make a well-thought-out hospital plan unique to your needs and wants. You will have the opportunity to decide ahead of time about the amount of contact you would like with your baby. You get to choose who will be in the delivery room, the baby’s name on the original birth certificate, how much time you would like to spend with your baby, and how much time the adoptive parents will spend with you and/or the baby. You are in charge of your hospital plan and experience.

What happens at the hospital and at the time of consent signing?

Florida State Law requires that you wait at least 48 hours after the baby is born to sign consents. Typically, consents are signed in the hospital and the baby is then released to the adoptive parents from the hospital. Following your execution of Final Consents for Adoption, we will be there to help you with post placement counseling.

After I sign consents, can I change my mind?

If the child to be adopted is less than six (6) months of age, your consent is irrevocable and cannot be withdrawn unless you can prove fraud or duress.

Are there any costs to me?

There are no costs to you if you place the baby for adoption. The State of Florida allows adoptive parents to pay for legal fees, medical bills not covered by insurance, consulting and counseling fees, maternity clothing, rent, utilities and any other reasonable pregnancy-related expenses permitted under Florida Law.  Should you change your mind during your pregnancy or before you execute a final consent for adoption, you would be responsible for paying back the adoptive parents for the funds they paid on behalf of your adoption plan.

What does open adoption mean?

An open adoption means that you get to choose the adoptive parents, and you can have some degree of contact with them. Many of our placements are open adoptions. Oftentimes the Birth Mother/Birth Parents and adoptive parents decide to exchange names, addresses, email address and phone numbers. Many adoptive parents even create their own Facebook page just to share pictures, milestones, and special occasions and events with you. This is left entirely up to you and the adoptive parents.

In almost all adoption plans, the adoptive parents provide pictures and letters and exchange phone calls with Birth Mother/Birth Parents more often than we ask.

In closed adoptions, we play the role of the “middleman” to arrange the exchange of pictures and letters which you may receive at 6 weeks, 6 months, one year old and each year thereafter. The most important thing to remember is that an open adoption is based on trust and respect between what you and the adoptive parents decide together.

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