Ben & Rachel

“We can only imagine the difficult decision you are facing, and we acknowledge your courage and your bravery.”

Location: Illinois

Ages: 46 and 40

Religion: Jewish

Professions: Therapist/Client Services Manager

Other Kids: None

Preferences: Any Race, Either Gender, Newborn up to 1 year of age

How We Met: We met through online dating! We had our first date at a local café. Hours of talking later, we agreed we would love to see each other again, and then again, and again. After 7 years together, our friends say we’re still “annoyingly affectionate” with each other, and we are very much still in love.

Qualities We Love, Admire and Respect in Each Other: Food is definitely loved in our home, and Ben is an amazing cook. He truly enjoys spreading out the cookbooks across the coffee table, picking recipes, and planning meals. In the warm weather months, he’s often found on our back porch by the grill, and our summers are filled with friends and family sharing a home cooked meal. Ben also changed careers five years ago, leveraging his kind, patient nature to move from being a computer programmer to a Social Worker. Rachel is the planner in the family, and when we have a project to do, she is the one who takes the lead. She keeps us on track and moving forward, whether it is trying to decorate our new condo or finding a great place to stay on our next trip. She loves to read, to craft, to knit, and to travel. Most importantly, at least to Ben, she can always make him laugh.

Our Hobbies and Interests: We joke that we’re just a couple of steps from homesteading in the city. Rachel makes bread each week from scratch. Ben makes a variety of pickled vegetables, grills everything, and in the summer, makes fantastic home-made ice cream. We love to cook together on Sunday afternoons when we take turns choosing the music and dance together as we cook. Some might go as far as to call us geeks. We love a good board game, have seen every Marvel movie, and had Han and Leia cake toppers on our wedding cake. 

Why We Want to Adopt: We always knew we wanted to have a family but we haven’t been able to carry a baby to full-term, and so we are choosing adoption as our path to building a family. We also both know that family is what you make of it. Love, intention, and caring, not genetics, are what makes a family to us. We hope for an open adoption because we know our child will have questions about the circumstances that lead to their birth, their identity, what they may look like in the future, and we want you to be part of your child’s story. We can only imagine the difficult decision you are facing, and we acknowledge your courage and your bravery.